Dear J,
I am, at the moment, a most real NYC Weboy; I am house-sitting for friends in Chelsea, and it is Gay Pride Day... I am one with all.
Of course, I wish you were here.
And you're not, and as with so many years when we are apart and one of is in New York when the other isn't... God is not smiling on the homosexuals: yes, today's forecast calls for rain... and I just looked sat Weather.com, and the clouds are hovering just off to the West.
It never rains on a Sunday in June... unless all is not right with the world.
I think you would appreciate the surreality of the day - all the pretty, pretty boys and their current uniform, a military style tank top and a long-ish short, usually Madras or camouflage; all the bustling around town as people get ready for their afternoon at the parade; and this year's hottest accessory: your life partner.
I think we may have mutually conjured this year's rain: I feel less connected to the day than usual... but not to the concept. I've been thinking a lot about what Pride means to me this year, and how I don't wear my sexuality as a badge in quite the way I did at 22 or 23; who I am is more than cute boys, and the defiance of being "outrageous" ... or even fabulous. I don't feel so fabulous, these days... but that's okay. Pride, I think, is what I learned from you, and from our friendship; our lives are transgressive, confrontational of the status quo. But at the same time, we are part of, and connected.
So here I sit, trading stories of how it used to be (not the fun parts - the parts about the tranny hookers and the prospect of getting mugged and the wild fringes of the sex club scene, here and in Paris), looking at the ads for dance parties I will not go to with music I no longer care to know, and dealing with the fact that New York is no longer the things we knew and were... and it's okay. I miss you. Wish you were here.
Happy Pride, Joan.
xoxo Betty
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